March 25, 2007

To Weigh or not to Weigh?

Posted in Uncategorized at 11:29 pm by satsanga


Image from The Joy Project…A support and resource page that can be found byGoogle and myspace.

The number can “feel” like control… and the numbers get out of control…

The number on the scale varies according to quite a few factors and some are important daily and monthly biological functions.  It is not appropriate or healthy to maintain a stable weight from one hour to the next or one day to the next. Attempts to do that, may require you to alter healthy self-care practices such as hydration, healthy levels of exercise, regular meals, etc… Additionally, when you weigh yourself, you may react with a stress response…this is yet one more factor added to the equation.

By letting go of the scale and being familiar with your body as it feels in your space, in your clothes, and most importantly IN ITS HEALTH… allow your body the freedom of normal daily and weekly fluctuations.  …as well as freedom from the weighing stress response.

 Try letting go.

Ask you doctor to weigh you backwards and keep the number in your chart to herself.

Throw away your scale

Don’t talk numbers to anyone

Tell people of your courage to join the “No Numbers Crowd”

 Trust your body : )


March 19, 2007

A good Reason to try to get better………

Posted in Help for Those who Tend Toward Self-Destruction at 5:43 pm by satsanga

What is “fake pain” and why does it matter?

The concept of “fake pain” helps to explain why distress-tolerance skills are so crucial.Observation of myself and interviews with others have convinced me that one of the reasons people self-injure is to deflect unknown, frightening pain into understandable, sort-of-controllable “pseudo” or “fake” pain. Calling this phenomenon “fake pain” is in no way intended to suggest that it doesn’t hurt; it hurts like hell. When memories or thoughts or beliefs or events are excessively painful, instead of facing them directly and feeling “genuine” pain, we sometimes deflect distress into pain that seems understandable and controllable, like that of self-injury. The real feelings associated with the event you’re avoiding get overridden by those of the situation you create to distract yourself. It still hurts like hell, but it’s a controllable familiar hell, whereas the real pain you’re avoiding seems scary and poised to take over your world like the monster who ate Detroit.

It’s easy to revert to “fake” pain. Trying to find the source of your distress can be scary as hell, because you often don’t know what you’re going to unleash. Fake pain, although very painful and traumatic, is something that you understand and can control and can handle. It’s familiar, not mysterious and scary like the real pain behind it. You might feel that if you ever exposed yourself to the real pain you’d lose control: “If I ever start crying, I’ll never stop” or “If I let myself get mad about that, I’ll never stop screaming.”

Instead, you unconsciously deflect the distress away from the memories or feelings that generated it and into self-injury. SI is seductive: you control it. You know the boundaries, even when you feel out of control. It makes sense and it makes the distress go away, at least for a while. It’s a clever mechanism — it takes what seems unbearable and transforms it into something you can control. The only problem is that when you deflect pain, you never face up directly to what it is that has caused this much tumult in your life. So long as you channel distress into fake pain, you never deal with the real pain and it never lessens in intensity. It keeps coming back and you have to keep cutting.

You have to deal with the unbearable if you ever want to make it lose its power over you. Every time you can meet the real pain head-on and feel it and tolerate the distress, it loses a little of its ability to wipe you out and eventually it becomes just a memory. The process is like building tolerance to a drug. Narcotics users take a little bit more of their drug every day as tolerance builds, until eventually they’re routinely taking amounts of drug that would kill an ordinary person. The poisonous events in your past work in a similar way. Exposure (with the help of a trained therapist) over time will build your tolerance to these events and enable you to lay them to rest. The key is learning to tolerate distress.

This article is from the web page

Self-injury: You are NOT the only one

Here is their Link

March 16, 2007

Wisdom: The Truth and What we KNOW

Posted in Blogroll at 3:23 am by satsanga

It is so hard to know for sure….what we know…what we know for sure to be true….

sometimes we believe it must be the things that we feel…those things that we feel absolutely and completely and so deeeeply…   But I ask……. Is this how we know somehting to be true?

 Or we think…we know something, we have added it up….thought through it and it seems logical…we’ve got the “facts”

 Again I ask,   Is this  how we know truth?

 Some say we come to know truth through the marraige of thought and feeling and this union is called wisdom

 ….the wise choices made by of those we look up to, were made from thought, reflection, and consideration of emotions. Wisdom is the integration of the heart and mind……

It is when we use what we know to be true in our thoughts and what we feel is true in our hearts…that we come the closest to knowing what is the truth for us.

March 13, 2007

P.O.S.T. Presentation– Eating as a Social Act: Media, Culture, Self, and Disorder

Posted in Blogroll at 3:12 pm by satsanga


Eating as a Social Act: 

Media, Culture, Self, and Disorder 

March 21, 2007

2:00 PM 

Catherine Cook-Cottone, PH.D. 

214 ACenter for the Arts

University at Buffalo,

Buffalo NY


Visit POST at —

info [at] postthespace [dot] com

Opening Hours: Monday through Friday, 12pm – 5pm 


Jewish Family Services Eating Disorder Therapy Buffalo NY

Posted in Western New York Eating Disorder Resources at 1:14 am by satsanga

Jewish Family Services runs special programs for Eating Disorders. Other services include: Groups, Family Therapy, Individual Counseling, Case Management, and Psychiatric Consultation 

Web at

The Mental Health Clinic of Jewish Family Service of Buffalo & Erie County (JFS) is now licensed to offer psychiatric help to children who have mental and emotional problems. A child psychiatrist, Shabrin Haque M.D., is available to treat children and adolescents enrolled in the Jewish Family Service Children’s Mental Health Clinic, according to Marlene A. Schillinger, JFS Executive Director.

“For a long time, the families we serve have been asking for this crucial medical intervention for their children. We are delighted that we can now offer them psychiatric support from an outstanding specialist,” Schillinger said.  “We are fortunate to have Dr. Haque  join our team.”

Appointments with Dr. Haque can be made by calling the clinic at (716) 883-1914.

In addition to the Children’s Mental Health Clinic, Jewish Family Service provides a broad range of programs including individual and family counseling, adoption, gambling recovery, career counseling, senior care and  more, to all residents of Erie County. The agency’s mission is to help families, children and individuals in transition and adversity.  Jewish Family Service accepts most forms of health insurance and has affordable fees for uninsured services.

As a licensed outpatient psychiatric clinic,

Jewish Family Service can help people tackle emotional,

behavioral and interpersonal difficulties which interfere

with their ability to love, parent, live self-sufficiently

and or feel good about themselves.

For more information on the Mental Health Services

provided by Jewish Family Service please call 716-883-1914.





Licensed by: New York State Office of Mental Health


New York State Department of Social Services

International Association of Counseling Services

Member With:A Constituent Agency of the Jewish Federation of Greater Buffalo

Member Agency of the United Way of Buffalo and Erie County

Member of the Association of Jewish Family and Children’s Agencies

Buffalo-Niagara Partnership

Erie County Network Inc.

Niagara Behavioral Healthcare Network Inc.





Jewish Family Service of Buffalo & Erie County
70 Barker Street Buffalo, New York 14209
716-883-1914 * 716-883-7637 Fax

March 12, 2007

Northwest Buffalo Community Health Care Center

Posted in Western New York Eating Disorder Resources at 7:39 pm by satsanga

Joanne E. Haefner, F.N.P., Clinical Coordinator

155 Lawn Avenue

Buffalo, NY  14207

Phone (716) 875-2904 X223

Excellent, knowledgeable, and experienced. Knows eating disorders and Western New York. Is a Nurse Practitioner very familiar with all of the medical guidelines, warning signs, and practice protocol. Joanne Haefner was a speaker at the Featherweight presentation during Eating Disorders Awareness Week and was extremely well received.

March 10, 2007

The Self is Designed to Hold: Self-Destruction or Self-Expression

Posted in Blogroll, Help for Those who Tend Toward Self-Destruction, SUNY at Buffalo Prevention and Treatment Group Updates at 2:44 pm by satsanga


The self…..who we are….is the body and the mind. It is a collection too… of our past, our now, and where we are going (our fears, hopes, expectations)……

 Sometimes what has happened to us or what is happening to us (our past and our present) have not been, or are not safe for our self (the mind and body).

We hold that…. in memories in mind and body as expectations……in part to keep ourselves safe ….

This self  (the mind and body)… is a container of our memories and experiences

This self (mind and body) hold all for us and sometimes….I think we don’t like what it is holding, remembering, what it has seen and we….some of us….turn against our self (the mind and the body)

 There are lots of ways to self-destruct to try to rid, or cleanse, or remove, …..but ultimately the strategy fails because the self (mind and body) is designed to hold these things for us …to keep us safe….our brains and our bodies want us to integrate these experiences into our thinking so that we can make safer choices in our lives now….

So…we are left with holding things in the self (mind and body) that overwhelm. This strategy tends to wear on the holder as well.

Self-expression seems to answer this need. It can be a whisper to your partner, a word in a journal, songs in your car by yourself, a blog, painting, dancing, yoga, the way you build a snowman..I have seen that as self-expression increases self-destruction decreases. The process of expression is integrating for that which you are holding and it makes external some of that which you are holding.

 For each urge to self-destruct, try…..try writing a word… word…..start there.

March 6, 2007

Emotions are Yours- Beauty From Pain as an example Superchicks

Posted in Blogroll, Help for Those who Tend Toward Self-Destruction at 3:40 pm by satsanga


On youtube (sp?) quite a few of the videos on eating disorders and struggles like them had background music from Superchicks. I bought the CD on Itunes and it is beautiful, and deeply emotional. I understand why so many have connected with their art.

When I was listening to the song Beauty from Pain….I was thinking about someone I lost last semester and how I wished that she could hear this song and I could talk to her about what it meant to her. I know …now… that her feelings overwhelmed her sometimes…I wish I knew this…and I wish I could have told her things …like the things we talk about in group…and things that are said in this song…Our emotions are for us, they serve us, and they are so…so …so…deep sometimes….and so…so..painful….but from this depth…..and our capacity to meet this depth, sober and breathing…comes beauty.  This song is for her.

The lights go out all around me
One last candle to keep out the night
And then the darkness surrounds me
I know I’m alive
But I feel like I died
And all that’s left is to accept that it’s over
My dreams ran like sand through the fists that I made
I try to keep warm but I just grow colder
I feel like I’m slipping away

After all this has passed
I still will remain
After I’ve cried my last
There’ll be beauty from pain
Though it won’t be today
Something I hope again
And there’ll be beauty from pain
You will bring beauty from my pain

My whole world is the pain inside me
The best I can do is just get through the day
When life before is only a memory
I wonder why God lets me walk through this place
And though I can’t understand why this happened
I know that I will when I look back someday
And see how you’ve brought beauty from ashes
And made me as gold purified through these flames

After all this has passed
I still will remain
After I’ve cried my last
There’ll be beauty from pain
Though it won’t be today
Someday I’ll hope again
And there’ll be beauty from pain
You will bring beauty from my pain

Here I am at the end of me
Trying to hold to what I can’t see
I forgot how to hope
This night’s been so long
I cling to your promise
There will be a dawn

After all this has passed
I still will remain
After I’ve cried my last
There’ll be beauty from pain
Though it won’t be today
Someday I’ll hope again
And there’ll be beauty from pain
You will bring beauty from my pain

March 4, 2007

Shakti Yoga in Buffalo

Posted in Yoga Tips at 7:18 pm by satsanga


A new yoga studio in Buffalo!

A spiritual, grounded, teacher has created the space


A great place to be, grow, learn, breathe….  

220 Lexington Ave., Buffalo, NY 14222

For additional information, contact:
(716) 884-YOGA


Here is the link to her webpage

March 2, 2007

Featherweight in WNY for Education and Treatment Support

Posted in Blogroll at 3:39 am by satsanga

I went to a really beautiful gathering tonight. I didn’t know what to expect at all. I knew a few people before the meeting, but we had all of us..never been together before…and had never been together for this purpose…for strength, support, healing, and honoring.

 I felt so lucky to be a part of such a powerful evening. So much strength was shown, I was overwhelmed…and at one point what I was talking about was described as courage…..and I did not know what to say…because it is not that…it is, what I have .. a gradual belief in all of us…that we will be okay…and there is an inner strength we can nurture (even if we do it for ourselves)…that grows and fills us…trust that…